Post Romanticism

I was once a Romantic.  Sometimes, when it comes to situations with my friends and their love lives, I still am. But, with my love life, I try to stay realistic.  Although, I’d be lying to myself if I thought I believed in love like I once did.

I remember being young and watching romance movies over and over again and believe that would happen to me. The guy coming back at the end and apologizing and loving the female character for who she truly was. It seemed so realistic.  And I ate up every minuet of it, but wasn’t I their target audience? Plus, it was a movie.  Movies don’t lie, right? Yeah to be young and naive again I guess…

Now here I am today, writing about my post romantic self. I don’t know if I believe in love as strongly as I did when I was younger.  Life isn’t a movie no matter how much I pretend it is.

I’ve has my heartbroken and it sucks.  I never truly understood what it meant to have my heartbroken until it happened to me. I never knew one person could have such an impact on my life and my life decisions and vice versa. That is something the movies don’t portray all too well.  What I do know is there is no remedy for it to go away, especially when the guy never comes back.  Just talking to another guy doesn’t work.  Just kissing another guy doesn’t work. Just sleeping with another guy doesn’t work.

Why?

Because there is still a very little part of me that believes it’ll work out at the end. Maybe once a Romantic can never recover…

9 thoughts on “Post Romanticism

  1. Been there, done that, as they saying goes. With that said, you can have a fulfilling relationship if you have realistic ideas about what marriage is. It’s work. Plain and simple. Harder than any real life job I ever had.
    You don’t forget those that hurt you. You learn from them about relationships and about yourself. Real love does exist. Just not a Hollywood romance.

  2. Maybe you are just human. Maybe you do not have an issue but rather a pure outlook on love and social connections that is something that maybe the people you encountered do not share. I don’t see a hopeless but a hopeful that probably just want someone to share that (apparently important) part of you with. Even movies are a reflection of ones vision of what relationships are in their head. So don’t try to change who you are but rather watch and critically hateful about who you let in your heart. Probably all stuff you know! Beautiful post though, just a guys perspective. =)

    1. Well thank you! That was kind and thoughtful! I appreciate the male perspective and I appreciate what you said very much 🙂 thank you

  3. I understand the feeling… I relate to this part at lot: “I’ve has my heartbroken and it sucks. I never truly understood what it meant to have my heartbroken until it happened to me. I never knew one person could have such an impact on my life and my life decisions and vice versa.” However, I am forever a romantic. I have a pretty positive outlook on life and love, and despite my more than occasional pessimism, I always believe that if it was meant to be, it’ll work out, and I always have hope. If there is a will (between the two), there is a way. Great post, though, very relatable.

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